If you have the time to read this piece of writing, stop right now and go read this: Child-free sections on planes is a good start. Now let’s sort out the trains.
There’s some expressions I simply think the writer has nailed:
babyccino-swilling hordes
brattish middle-class kids
“quiet-zone”
parents feel so entitled
I think we need to have these expressions to define the tyranny that parents and their small and not-so-small children throw at those regular humans who have less right to anything the moment a child is present: “child-friendly policy”, “family-friendly coach” or “family-friendly restaurant”, “family bay parking”.
While this might not seem like such a sensitive and politically-correct stand to take, it is the excessive entitlement that parents feel and hence give their children that are really the insensitive and politically-incorrect attitude to adopt. I have been at restaurants where parents allow the child the freedom to stand on seats and even worse, on tables, with or without shoes. What might the parents feel should I place my shoe on their table? It is shocking they seem to presume their standard of hygiene on others. I am sure, at some time or the other, we have heard wailing children in cinemas. I thought the main purpose of a visit to the cinemas is to enjoy the show, not screaming, wailing and kicking children. Recently, I sat at a popular day hawker centre at a table next to an extended family of grandparents, parents and children. The young girl of about five years old, for some reason I cannot fathom, threw her tissue on the ground. I think the mother would have left the tissue there had I not stared in horror at the piece of tissue, then stared in horror at the child, then stared in horror at the mother, then repeated that order of staring in horror until the mother chided the child until the latter picked up the piece of discarded tissue.
It seems parents have taken such policies overboard so that when there is a “child-friendly” place, it becomes “child-obsessive”. If a child is not pronounced cute by an adult observer, the latter becomes an enemy of the whole family. While the writer in the quoted article says that parents feel they have bred for the good of humanity, perhaps some Singaporean parents feel they have bred for the good of the country, that we need to have more Singaporeans and their children precious citizens who will build the future of our nation. Maybe not.
Whatever it is, we need to be aware that “friendly” does not mean infringing on the peace and standards of others. I can be friendly to you and that is all there is to it: friendly. I am not in love with you and neither am I prostrating myself in front of you for your approval. As long as I am not getting myself in your way, I am friendly. And so should you not get yourself in my way.
What we must understand is that a child is amoral. If parents do not chide a child, they have no choice but to leave it to society to use the whip. If they cannot be adequate parents, others will do the job for them and for that, they should be thankful.
The last words here are not best left by me but by Julie Bindel:
“Do me a favour – have your kids, and enjoy them all you like, but please try to keep them from bothering me.”
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